With the work
from home scenario, suddenly the couple has been forced to stay together the
whole day. Nobody wanted it and nobody wants it, that way. While initially, it
seemed to work wonders being around together more often than before, watching
movies on OTT, playing board games, browsing through the photo albums together,
soon it turned into a nightmare.
While the
husbands were earlier quietly enjoying the day time break being away from home
and at office, the women who relished the “Me Time” have begun to feel suffocated
with the man being around at home, all the time. Think about the working women,
she is harassed for time everyday with home, inlaws, husband, kids and
household chores. No gym, no walking and not much time for herself. The pent up
feelings and piling office work is beginning to hurt their mental and physical
well being.
The healthy
space between the two has vanished and quarrels and abuse have become common. Imagine
being quarantined without having Covid, that’s exactly how most women have been
feeling during the pandemic. The online classes haven’t helped either with kids
occupying the bedroom and demanding something to eat every one hour.
Help for
household chores is a daily bother with excuses of office call, online class
etc being thrown in.
Unless the
men understand what their spouse is going through and support them; and together
with the children do 50:50 in household chores and relinquish their rooms now
and then for women; and private and government come together to set up some
support systems, the pandemic will leave a psychological scar on the wife-husband
relationship forever.
In the
meantime, the helplines and phone lines of counsellors are buzzing with calls
from married women.
Rajasekar
KS, Author of the upcoming book How to Read Your Husband Like a Book. He
can be reached at positivemantra@gmail.com
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