My husband keeps forgetting his wallet and car keys, what should I do

Ever seen your husband frantically searching for the car keys, wallet, ID card or his favourite tie just when you’re leaving to office or busy with something? And finally you find it right on his desk or inside his cupboard.

Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Millions of wives are facing this situation every day. On the lighter side, men are so forgetful that sometimes they forget who they married.

Women are sometimes bewildered by this strange behaviour of their husbands. It’s a feeling only married women can empathize with.

It’s best to work together on this and help him. Ask him to get into the habit of leaving these in some dedicated place where he can find it easily, by himself.

Second, ask him to stop and take a look at where he’s keeping it. When he searches, he can close his eyes and visualize where he last saw the thing he’s searching…and abracadabra he’ll generally remember it.

With a little patience from both and lot of effort from your husband, he’ll be able to soon remember where he kept his things.

If he’s just misplacing things once in a while, it’s fine. Could you be just a bad habit from his younger days.

But if he keeps losing car keys, wallet and credit cards frequently, then a visit to the doctor might help. It’s all treatable and curable.

A secret family ritual that creates a sense of belonging

For five decades, a family ritual that my father began has ushered immense love in my family. In my youth, it used to be my parents, sister and two brothers. Now, I continue that sacred tradition. 

Every day after dinner my wife, two daughters and yours truly bond together to share our day's happenings.

A 30-minute non judgemental sharing and listening that lets each other know what we're doing, what makes us happy or what our aspirations are for the future. 

We laugh, smile, appreciate, encourage and connect as a family. 

And when we go to bed after that, we feel relaxed and happy.

Try to set apart a time with your husband and kids, after dinner, when you can speak what's on your mind. If we share our daily experiences, the openness binds us together.

I strongly urge you to start it today!

How just holding your husband's hands heals you

Holding hands fundamentally depicts trust, intimacy and love between the husband and wife. Enrich your relationship and blow your worries away with a simple act, every day.

It's seems like a simple act yet it's powerful. Everytime you or your spouse is under some stress or tension, just hold your partner's hands with fingers locked...press gently and magically, within minutes, you become relaxed. The heart pounds slower, even the breathing is relaxed. 

Touch is so healing that you could hold hands, be silent and sit beside each other all day.

Touch is vital for humans, more so for wife and husband. The more regular you are at holding hands while walking or even while watching television or reading a book together, the more the love and less the tension.

After birth, touch is the first connection we make with this world. Therefore, it's life saving. It's therapeutic.

Science tells us that human touch triggers the release of oxytocin (the love hormone) in our brains. It is a neurotransmitter that increases the feeling of trust, intimacy compassion and decreases stress, fear and anxiety.

Holding hands also decreases the levels of stress hormones like cortisol in our body.

Hold hands, let go of your anxiety. Peace will descend on you and your family.

Rajasekar KS