Sunday, August 23, 2020
Monday, August 17, 2020
Men think, Women feel
Look at the way they ask questions.
Man: What do you think?
Woman: How do you feel?
The way a many behaves is different from that of a woman. Your husband will think and respond or do things.
You will feel and do or respond to questions.
If you understand this fundamental difference, you will not feel bad or get upset the next time he gives you a quick answer that is devoid of any details.
As a woman, you will ask your friend: "How would you feel when you husband says this ....in response to ....."
As a man, your husband is likely to ask his friend: "What do you think a wife means when she says this..."
The man, by nature, is trained to think, not feel. It's not easy to change this behaviour, since it's hardwired.
You will always feel and connect lots of information when you talk about something. This too is difficult to change, because it's natural.
If you understand this, you will soon learn to appreciate why they say and do things the way they do. As you become aware, you will learn to celebrate your differences.
For both of you are made to be special and unique.
Saturday, August 8, 2020
The husband is always looking to fix the issue.
Let's see how.
Wife is silent. Husband can't figure out why.
Husband: What happened baby
Husband (on phone two hours later): I've asked her about 50 times till now but she's not saying what's upset her.
The husband could reflect for a moment on what might have upset her - morning conversation, an incident that happened at dinner, did he forget to do something she asked, oh my god, did he forget her mom's birthday.
Instead of asking, he can take the step to find out.
But he won't, that's their nature. The husband is always looking to fix the issue. Not understand it.
Tuesday, August 4, 2020
Saturday, July 25, 2020
Ever seen your husband frantically searching for the car keys, wallet, ID card or his favourite tie just when you’re leaving to office or busy with something? And finally you find it right on his desk or inside his cupboard.
Don’t worry, you’re not alone. Millions of wives are facing this situation every day. On the lighter side, men are so forgetful that sometimes they forget who they married.
Women are sometimes bewildered by this strange behaviour of their husbands. It’s a feeling only married women can empathize with.
It’s best to work together on this and help him. Ask him to get into the habit of leaving these in some dedicated place where he can find it easily, by himself.
Second, ask him to stop and take a look at where he’s keeping it. When he searches, he can close his eyes and visualize where he last saw the thing he’s searching…and abracadabra he’ll generally remember it.
With a little patience from both and lot of effort from your husband, he’ll be able to soon remember where he kept his things.
If he’s just misplacing things once in a while, it’s fine. Could you be just a bad habit from his younger days.
But if he keeps losing car keys, wallet and credit cards frequently, then a visit to the doctor might help. It’s all treatable and curable.